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So, you’ve met someone, fallen in love, and you’re ready to get married again. Or, are you? Could your desire to marry again be more complex?
“” isn’t the only motivating factor when it comes to getting married, especially for the second or even third time. Understanding your true motivations for wanting to marry can help you determine how successful the marriage will be.
4 Bad Reasons to Remarry
It’s common sense that if you marry for the right reasons, you will be more likely to have a successful marriage.
Here are four bad reasons to get married again.
Some people can’t be alone, they don’t like their own company and being unattached. They don’t feel complete if they aren’t part of a couple. The problem with allowing loneliness to motivate you to marry again is this, if that second marriage is a bad marriage, you will be lonelier than you were before you married.
It’s a great relationship that keeps a person from feeling lonely, not marriage.
Financial need can be a great motivator for some to marry again. Especially single mothers like my friend who are struggling to support and care for children. But regardless of your gender, don’t marry someone because it will relieve financial stress or help further a corporate career. That is a rotten thing to do to someone who may genuinely love you.
Lust isn’t love. There is a huge difference between the two, and waiting to have sex until marriage due to religious or ethical reasons is no reason to rush into another marriage.
Sexual attraction can blind you to negative personality traits in a partner and negative relationship issues. Wait until the lust dies down and the rose-colored glasses come off before committing to spending your life with someone you want to have sex with.
Pressure From Friends and Family
You’ve been through a nasty divorce.
Your friends and family have watched with concern for your wellbeing. They want to see you happy and coupled up again. Don’t be surprised if they start talking marriage at the first sign of you being in a great relationship.
The fact that family and friends are pressuring you to marry again is more about relieving their own discomfort at the thought of you being alone than about you finding happiness in a healthy marriage. Don’t let others make the decision for you!
4 Good Reasons to Get Married Again
Here are four good reasons to remarry.
You Are Emotionally Ready
You know who you are and, you like who you are. You’ve got a keen sense of self and the ability to discern when you’ve attached yourself to someone who doesn’t respect that in you. You have the internal resources required to work through marital and relationship problems. Inevitable hard times in the marriage can be tackled and dealt with because you and your new spouse are highly functioning, autonomous individuals who don’t shy away from conflict.
You have no leftover baggage from your previous marriage. When it comes to your ex-spouse you are able to have a civil relationship and co-parent in a healthy manner. There is no unresolved pain, leftover anger and you’ve learned valuable lessons to take into your second marriage from your previous.
You’veInvestedTime in The Relationship
A study from the School of Professional Psychology at Pacific University revealed that a strong correlation exists between the length of the dating period and marital success. The study showed that couples who dated for more than two years scored consistently high on marital satisfaction, while couples who dated for shorter periods of time scored in a wide range from very high to very low.
The longer you date, the better you get to know each other which will equate to more satisfaction in the marriage. Again, more common sense!
You Are in an Emotionally Stable Relationship
If your relationship has been marked by conflict, turmoil, cheating and, constantly breaking up and getting back together you don’t have the stability to maintain a healthy relationship during marriage.
If you are both reliable, dependable and consistent in your love and concern for each other it’s time to hit the alter!
You Two Hold Similar Values and Beliefs
Happily married couples have a lot in common. Having like-minded views on issues that are important to both of you is the glue that holds a couple together. Having similar core beliefs, values, and ethics is associated with marital success and is less associated with marital instability and divorce.
If you aren’t on the same page regarding issues such as how many children to have, how to spend marital assets, or how much alcohol consumption is too much, it's probably a good idea to stay away from the altar.
As you consider whether or not you are ready to get married again, take time to consider each of the above bad and good reasons. The time you spend making sure that marriage, right now, is right for you could save you a lot of emotional pain in the future.
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