HOW TO SURVIVE the First 3 Months with BABY || What Every NEW MOM Should Know
How to Survive the First Month of New Motherhood
Don't expect perfection from either yourself or the baby.The idea is to "roll with the punches." Just get through this tricky period of adjustment in the best way that you can. Keep in mind that ninety percent is an A. If you are managing to keep the baby fed, and in clean diapers, and you are staying alert to any medical necessities, you are doing great.
- Avoid comparing yourself to others. One mother might give birth to a baby and make it all seem effortless, while another baby may cry a lot, have medical issues, or you might have difficulty with adjusting to motherhood. In the end, both are mothers trying to do what is best.
- Avoid comparing yourself to an earlier version of you. The first month is a huge transition. Your body changes from birth, your hormones surge in new directions, and you may encounter social, emotional, and other changes in your new life.
Make things easy for yourself by keeping supplies close to the places where you will be using them, such as diaper rash cream etc.
- If you are nursing, move your most comfortable easy chair into the baby's room. Set up a table next to the chair for a bottle of water, your glasses, a clock, maybe some music, and anything else you will routinely need during nursing. If your partner will feed the baby at night, it is good to pump breast milk or have the formula bottles ready ahead of time. In general, try to always prepare about 10 bottles each time that you "make bottles" of formula for your baby. You can buy pre-mixed formula to make this easier.
- If you are going to be up in the middle of the night, you might as well be comfortable. Make it even easier on yourself by not actually getting up when your baby wakes you. You can have one of those new cribs that fits right next to your bed and has a side that drops.Then just reach over, get your baby, and nurse him/her while lying on your side.
- If you are bottle feeding, keep everything you need for formula preparation conveniently grouped on the kitchen counter. You will be way too tired to be searching in the drawers and cupboards in the middle of the night for the lid of the bottle etc. Or, just before bed, prepare bottles by taking a clean, empty, dry bottle and measuring out the dry formula. Then cap it, and place it next to your night stand or in the baby's room along with a couple bottles of plain water - again, pre-measured if you think you might not get it right in the middle of the night. Just open the bottles and mix and feed. In the morning, take the empty bottles down to be washed. Another alternative is to buy the ready-to-feed formula in bottles for nighttime feedings, but this can get expensive. It can also be helpful to buy a mini fridge to keep in your room with the bottles of formula if the kitchen is far away.
- You may have a perennial incision which will require washing with each trip to the bathroom, and this will require certain equipment. There is also a possibility of hemorrhoids. Again, make things easy on yourself by putting all those materials within easy reach of the toilet. It is important to take care of yourself. The closer the materials are, the faster you can get yourself taken care of so that you can get back to that baby. Good products to have on hand are Preparation H, Tucks Pads with Witch Hazel, Tylenol or Motrin. A squirt bottle for gentle cleansing and diluting urine is helpful for this healing area.
Sleep when the baby sleeps.It's essential to avoid sleep deprivation so that you can remain alert when caring for the baby. Know how much sleep you need per day and get it in bits and pieces, sleeping when your baby sleeps, and napping when your baby naps--avoid the temptation to catch up on email while the baby is sleeping. You need to rest when the baby rests. This is very important.
- Place the baby on his/her back when they sleep and keep the crib or bassinet near you with no pillows, quilts, or toys (a light blanket can be placed below the baby's arms and tucked in lightly along the bottom half of the crib).If you choose to co-sleep, read up on how to do so safely. Also see the Warnings section below about sleeping positions.
- Call your doctor or midwife if the baby seems to be sleeping excessively (over the normal 16 hours a day) as this may signal an infection.
Ease into a schedule.Some people feel that effort should be made to get your baby on a schedule right away, and others believe in letting a natural rhythm arise at its own pace. Either way, do what is most manageable for you without causing stress to the baby. It will take some trial and error to find a good balance. If you won't be working for awhile, then it won't really matter when your baby sleeps. Sometimes it's best to just let them sleep whenever they are ready to and not force them if they aren't ready yet.
- Try to keep things picked up and keep your house very clean. This will prevent your baby from getting sick, and it will make you feel more at peace if your working environment is always clean and tidy.
- Help the baby differentiate night and day by playing and keeping the room bright during the day, and by avoiding playing loud music and having bright lights at night. Change your baby's clothing on a constant schedule, as this will help them know that onesies are for playtime and night gowns are for bedtime. Swaddling at night will also help your baby to feel comfortable, warm and sleep longer.
Be alert for signs of the postpartum blues especially if you have had a medicated, surgical or assisted delivery.Over 50% of women experience tearfulness, tiredness, sadness, and difficulty in thinking clearly on the third or fourth day after delivery. This is probably caused by a sudden decrease of maternal hormones. Don't ignore these symptoms and any feelings of sadness or guilt that result; talk about it with someone who's close to you, and don't try to feign happiness if you're really feeling down.
- Feel your emotions all the way through! Some of it will be painful and that is okay. Not only are you adjusting to an awesome event in life, your body is releasing every hormone known to woman around the clock. It should pass within one to three weeks, as the hormones stabilize and you acclimate to the new situation. If you need to, get help from a caring counselor.
Accept help.If you can afford it, hire a housecleaner, even just once every two weeks.That can help a lot. Get a babysitter if you need a break. Consider hiring a postpartum doula. If your partner is in the picture, support everything he or she does to help out. Be willing to let your partner dress or bathe the baby, and to take the child out for a walk or a drive; a parent who feels supported in his or her efforts to attend to the baby is more likely to want to spend more time with the baby. That is likely to be a win-win situation for all involved. Relax and let your partner run with it. Chances are they can change a diaper just as well as you can! Sharing the responsibilities is a good thing. Discuss how they can help you more, if you need it.br>
Carry the baby close to you in a baby carrierwhen you move around the house or when you go out.Strollers are nice, but you may find that keeping the baby right on your chest will be the most convenient for you even while you cook meals. Taking a walk outside can be very refreshing for both you and the baby, and a baby carrier can make getting around very easy and comfortable for both of you. Having more contact time with you will make your baby calmer and happier, which will benefit you too.
Ease into a different diet.If you ate your way through nine months of pregnancy with the mindset of providing for two, don't expect to immediately go back to 1400 calories a day with the will power of a professional bodybuilder. It may take a week or two for your habits to adjust. Plan to eat 3 healthy meals a day, and give yourself a little flexibility with your snacks until your body catches up with your eating habits. After your doctor or midwife gives you permission, start exercising again in small increments. If possible, join a gym. Not only will going to the gym get you out of the house, you will be inspired to stay on track by all of the twenty-somethings in sports bras and spandex. Don't forget to drink enough water and take a good quality daily multivitamin.
Keep your social life balanced.Some moms will find time away from the baby to be relieving, while others will prefer to keep the newborn with them at all times. It's an individual choice. Either way, stay in touch with your support system, whether that consists of the father, your close relatives, or friends. Consider finding other new mothers and connecting with them. Many places have groups of moms who meet regularly, and they can often be found with a little research on the Internet. As far as guests are concerned, limit people from visiting during this time when your child is vulnerable to contagious illnesses; most people are at their most contagiousbeforethey show symptoms of being sick.
Know what to expect from the baby.Don't be surprised if the baby loses a few ounces of weight during the first few days after being born--they'll usually bounce back to that weight after seven to ten days. Look for the baby to demand to nurse every 1 1/2 to 2 1/2 hours, appear satisfied after feedings, takes both breasts at each nursing, soak 6-8 cloth diapers or 5 disposable diapers each day, and pass 3 or more soft stools per day. Call to choose a pediatrician and set up an appointment for your infant's check-ups. Have the baby checked up on by an appropriate health professional on the third or fourth day after birth (if the newborn was discharged within 24 hours of delivery) and two weeks after birth; this is a good time to ask him or her any questions you may have. Always remember and keep up to date with shots. Immunization, flu, and others are important to get during this and the next few months. You may choose to decline or postpone immunizations. Smaller babies, especially premature, are more delicate and they don't have the immune system of a toddler or preschooler.
- Spitting up is not uncommon and is nothing to be alarmed about, as long as the baby's weight gain is on schedule.
- The umbilical cord stump will usually fall off during the second week; until then, give the newborn sponge baths instead of tub baths, and fold the front of the diaper down below the navel to keep the area aired and clean. If it gets dirty you may dab the stump with alcohol.
- If the baby is circumcised, place a dab of petroleum jelly on the circumcised area to keep the diaper from sticking to it.
Plan for contraception before you resume love-making (only after you feel ready).Don't have unprotected intercourse, as it is possible to ovulate and get pregnant even a few weeks after giving birth.It is recommended to wait 6 weeks to start being sexually active, due to healing time, stitches, starting contraception. If you plan to depend on exclusive breastfeeding for family planning, learn and do the guidelines.
Remember to enjoy that baby.The first few days and weeks will be rough, and you might be tempted to forget that you are in the midst of a miraculous and wonderful time. So even though you will be tired and sometimes stressed, do remember to soak in the joyful parts of the day. Cherish every minute, even when you are up at 2 am giving the baby a feeding and you look out the window and all is dark except your house. These few months will pass quickly and believe it or not, you will miss it!
QuestionI'm 14 and I will be having a baby soon, but my mother refuses to help, what do I do?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerThere are many support groups and crisis pregnancy centers out there. They will give you counseling and parenting clases as well as baby supplies. Some of them offer housing for mothers and their children in these situations. Also, your mom might have a change of heart when she meets her grandchild for the first time.Thanks!
QuestionIf you are a 15-year-old mother and you just had your baby, what could you do about school?wikiHow ContributorCommunity AnswerThere are several options for what you can do about school. You can find a trusted relative (maybe one of your parents, or the baby's dad) to watch the baby while you are at school. You could also work with a counselor to complete your GED from home, so that you can spend time with your baby. You can try to find a support group for other young mothers, and see which options worked for them while you are searching for the option that best fits your situation.Thanks!
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- If you want your partner to help with chores or with the baby, do not criticize how they do things. There is more than one way to get something done, and there often is not a single right way. Just make sure they are safe with the baby.
- An important reminder-when your baby cries, do not take it personally. Crying is the only way babies have to communicate. They can't talk or enunciate anything, all they can do is utter an uncontrolled burst from their vocal chords. Know your baby, and you will usually know what he/she wants when crying. They may be hungry, need a diaper change, or need burping. Also, don't forget that babies aren't always crying because there is something wrong. In the first few months some babies just seem to cry a lot. There's no such thing as a good baby--or the converse--a baby who is crying in order to be bad or irritate you.
- Read up on how to calm a crying baby early so you're prepared.
- Keep the camera right out in the open and use it every day for one or two shots. Your baby will change fast, and before you know it, you will be making a slide show for graduation from high school. For that you are going to want to have plenty of nice pictures!
- The most important advice you can get is to ignore all the well-meaning people giving you advice. At the end of the day, what works the best for you and your baby is what you should do.
- Remember that this is the first time for your baby, too, so they assume that whatever you're doing, that's the way things are supposed to be. Your baby will not be criticizing or judging you.
- Ask for and get help. Being a mother is a job in itself, never mind laundry, cleaning, cooking, changing the oil in your car, and all those other things that have to get done. You don't get awards for doing it all.
- Whenever possible, lean on your partner for support; they will also feel more involved and invested!
- Depending on your individual situation and when and if you will be returning to work, it is never too early to start making plans. If you are returning to work, solidify your childcare arrangements. If you will be spending your days being a mother, start connecting with Moms in your area and locating Mommy and Me classes.
- Pay attention to any hard spots in your breast tissue if you are breastfeeding, as there is a slight chance of a plugged milk duct becoming infected. Call your midwife, lactation consultant or doctor if you develop this problem.
- Take Post-Partum Depression seriously. It's a medical problem, not a sign of you being a bad mother. It can be treated and you will enjoy being a woman and mother much more.
- Also call the doctor if the baby's skin turns yellow, which may be a symptom of jaundice, a potentially serious condition in which the baby's liver is having trouble processing bilirubin (a by-product of red blood cell turnover).
- Know the latest information on sleep positions and educate anyone who is helping you so that they will do the right thing in this regard. If anyone else looks after the baby, clarify that the baby is always to sleep on its back--a baby that is accustomed to sleeping on its back and is then placed to sleep on the stomach or tummy is at greater risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).
- Call the doctor if you spot extreme floppiness, jitters, fever (rectal temperature above 100.4 degrees Fahrenheit or 38 degrees Celsius), lethargy/sleeping all the time, or very loose and watery stools.
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