6 Tips on Maintaining Long Distance Relationships



Maintaining Long-Distance Relationships: How to Stay in Touch With Friends

Decide Before Your Friend Moves

Maybe she thought you were going to FaceTime every night? Or you assumed that she would be back often so there was no need for in-between catchup sessions? While it might seem weird, Nicole Zangara, LCSW, author of “Surviving Female Friendships: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly,” suggests having a chat before she moves away.

“It’s better to hammer out the expectations now then be let down when schedules get busy and the friendship starts to dwindle,” she explains. “Discuss everything you can — including how often you’ll visit — upfront so that you’re both as prepared as possible.”

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Don't Just Text: Pick Up the Actual Phone

I know. There’s no time to seriously call people anymore. But even a 20-minute catchup is enough to get the rundown of each other’s lives, laugh a little, bond and hear each other’s voices. Talking on the phone “can do wonders for the friendship. It’s more meaningful than email or text,” says Zangara. Playing phone tag? Schedule a quick “meeting” just like at work.

If you live in different countries, try Google Hangout or Skype for some face time (or FaceTime!). You can even do a group call with a bunch of friends and “hang out” while drinking wine. Sure, it’s not the same as happy hour, but it’s as close as you’ll get without traveling.

Just put some time on your actual calendars. Reminding yourselves to interact on the phone is (almost) as good as running into each other like you used to in the same city.

Or Write a Letter

For some friends, especially those who live in drastically different time zones, calling or Skyping regularly just isn’t possible. This is where the art of letter writing comes in. “A good letter warms your heart,” says Julia B., who regularly writes letters to faraway friends. “I have found that when I get a great letter I read it again and again. It’s not very easy, for me at least, to convey emotions well on social media, and somehow a letter can really breach that barrier.”

While writing a letter probably takes just as much time as an email, there’s something more personal and thoughtful about snail mail. You could even include little tidbits like an old photo or a picture you tore out of a magazine. Postcards are also fun if you’re short on words.

Schedule Quality Time

Saying things like “We should talk soon,” or “I really want to come visit!” only goes so far: At some point, you have to make the effort to put some plans into motion. Plus, Zangara says, “knowing you have something planned takes the pressure off” since you know you’re nurturing the friendship.

Jennifer A., whose childhood best friend lives in another country, adds that putting concrete plans on the books — whether it’s a date to grab lunch halfway between your cities or a weekend away — also gives you something to plan together and look forward to, which is another way to bond.

Reach Out

Friendships are about give-and-take, but your relationship with a particular friend doesn’t need to be “equal.” If a pal recently moved away and has been slacking on calling or emailing you back, don’t take it personally. She may be struggling with her new job, exhausted from getting lost in her new city, or generally dealing with the newness of relocation.

Unless the friendship has always been one-sided, give her the benefit of the doubt and take the reins for a while. When you’re the one going through a major change, she’ll be the one to step up.

Celebrate and Commiserate

Be supportive through your friend’s ups and downs. Whether she just got married, had a kid, got the flu or lost her job, don’t just show your encouragement (or consolation) via Facebook comments. Instead, send a care package, suggests Sarah B., who recently surprised long-distance pals doing just that.

It doesn’t have to be large or expensive. Just include a couple of items — her favorite candy or snack, a magazine, a toy for her new puppy, you get the idea — that you know she would enjoy, and ship it with a flat-rate USPS box. (A medium box would fit all those items and costs .) Putting in the extra effort will make her feel loved, no matter what the circumstances. If your budget is tight, even a handwritten birthday card can go a long way.






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